All of a sudden, she stopped and sat down on a stoop to catch her breath. She said to herself, as she relayed to me, never again. And when Margaret made up her mind, she made up her mind.
Margaret’s story of setting boundaries with time has stayed with me. Unlike my Godmother, I have had to continue to learn the lesson of managing the tendency towards busyness. And I don’t think I’m alone.
If you find yourself chronically busy, ask yourself the following questions:
What do you think will happen if you slow down?
Take a moment to envision what it would be like to live at a slower pace. Are you afraid of missing out? Are you avoiding uncomfortable thoughts or emotions? Do you think you will let down your kids, spouse, friends if you say no to an activity?
Don’t shy away from any realizations that arise. Take a moment to breathe and relax and allow the eureka moments to shine or allow yourself to stay in the question.
If you weren't so busy, you would....
What hidden dreams are you avoiding by being busy? Have you always wanted to paint, take a dancing class or sit quietly by yourself and read a book? Are there wishes you are avoiding by being busy?
How can you bring moments of stillness and movement into your life?
Small moments can cultivate deeper awareness, appreciation and understanding of ourselves and situations.
- Pause and look around you when you get into the car. Notice the color of the sky and the details of your surroundings before you turn the key.
- Take 1 minute to stretch and move. Find these moments throughout your day. Set an alarm on your phone if that’s helpful.
- Take 3 slow breaths before you begin to eat.
Press pause. Repeat.