Inevitably this time of year, there are a lot of posts and articles about improving habits, creating your best life ever, and things in that vein. And then my friend posted, “What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more.” That caught my attention. What if?
Think about it. What would that look like to you? If loving yourself more resonates with you this year, follow these three steps:
1. Ask yourself: What does loving yourself even mean?
Some of our habits that we use to treat ourselves, aren’t actually self-love. Eating foods we know make us feel bad. Mindlessly scrolling through Facebook. Binge-watching tv.
Do you have habits like that - that you tell yourself are a treat, but really are hurting you? When you tell yourself that you deserve a treat, ask yourself if you are truly taking care of yourself.
What are behaviors that you find nourishing? Reading a good book. Relaxing on the couch. Going for a run. Talking to a friend. Going for a walk. Taking a yoga class. After an activity, check in with yourself and ask whether you feel better or worse.
2. Make a list.
Sit down and write down all the things that bring you joy. Write down things from your past, things you do now and things you'd like to try. Write down even the little things: taking a bath, going for a walk or just sitting by the fire.
Then sit with your list. Ask yourself: How can I do more things that bring me joy and help me to love myself more?
3. Have some fun.
Cultivate a sense of adventure. Have some fun with it. Try some new things, some old things. And then notice, notice, notice. Sit with your authentic self as you observe which things you want to bring into your life now. Consider it self-love! Let go of old expectations about what makes you happy and invite new ways of being. Loving yourself will only lead to good things!