It could be that cup of tea that you drink while it’s still hot. The yoga class with a friend. A date night. Laughing over a meal with good friends and family. It could be reading a book in the afternoon that takes place in a country you will never visit. It could be dancing in the kitchen with your family. It could be running, playing a sport, and going for a walk. It could be cooking something you’ve never made before.
Self care helps people feel more satisfied in all areas of their life.
What pops into your mind when you read the words “self care”.
Do you think, yes, I’ve got that down. Or, maybe, that sounds lovely, but I don’t have time! or I don’t know what that really is or I don't know where or how to start.
Notice your response. Practice awareness.
What are your thoughts?
What happens to your breathing?
Where do you feel it in your body?
What secondary thoughts come into your mind?
If you'd like to devote more time to your self care, what are your obstacles? Ask yourself, why not?
Is it time?
Do you feel selfish when you make yourself a priority?
Now, dream a little dream. Imagine you could do it. Ask yourself, how?
Take a couple of breaths to disengage from your response and your obstacles.
Ask yourself these questions:
- What do you enjoy? Write down 3 things that make you happy.
- What is an activity that you can do in short amounts of time, even just 10 or 20 minutes?
Next, create some time:
- Spend a day and notice how you spend your time. How much time goes to email? Internet? Worrying?
- Notice your thoughts around self-care. Make a commitment, even if just a few moments, to do something nice for yourself. Don’t ask for permission!
- Protect your time! Where can you say no? People will adjust. Be kind, but firm.
- Write on your calendar designated blocks of time for taking a walk, enjoying a cup of tea while looking out the window, making a nourishing lunch for yourself, doing some yoga stretches.
I leave you with two quotes I hope will inspire you and keep you going:
"It's very difficult for us to say yes to our own pleasure, but it is oh-so-easy to say yes to responsibility and obligation. I think it's time we change that.” Regina Thomashauer
“Self-care is not selfish or self-indulgent. We cannot nurture others from a dry well. We need to take of our own needs first, then we can give from our surplus, our abundance.” Jennifer Louden