As soon as I realized it, I had that moment. That moment of let down. Frustration. Wondering if I could fix it. Feeling terrible about myself for not catching it. I went there.
Then, I took a breath. Laughed about it. Said, oh well. Mountains will not crumble, cities will not burn because the subject line of my newsletter was wrong. And then I thought, THAT'S a blog post!
Because making mistakes is universal. We are not perfect, we are human. Making mistakes can be a time for growth, for learning. AND it’s all in your approach.
3 Questions to Ask Yourself:
- Remember a time recently when you made a mistake (forgot something, said the wrong thing, messed something up). What were your internal comments about yourself, the mistake, your value as a person? Reflect for a moment.
- Do words come up like: I always... or I never...? How could I do this? What is the story that you tell yourself?
- If you stepped away from the story and just saw the mistake, what could you learn? What would you say to a loved one who made this same mistake?
It takes about 90 seconds for a powerful emotion to move through you. For this practice, be comfortable. You can sit. You can lie down. Over time, you can do this whenever you notice a strong emotion.
Focus on the rise and fall of your breath. On the sensations in your body, in your lungs. You can notice the thoughts that swirl around your mind. And keep returning to your breath and body. Allow your feelings and thoughts to rise and fall. Don’t try to control them, push them away or do anything with them. Watch and breathe and keep relaxing.
Do this for 90 seconds. Once the emotion has been expressed, what comes after? Can you find a place of no story? What if the mind didn't take over with the story that lasts a lot longer than 90 seconds?
Once you are ready, ask yourself what you can learn and how you can grow.
We are not already perfect. Expecting to be is setting ourselves up for pain.
Sri Swami Satchidananda wrote in The Golden Present:
The problem with so-called perfectionists is that they don’t like to accept failure. You have to fail. That is the process of learning. Don’t be afraid of failing. Let every failure help you to learn a little better for your future success. In fact, nobody is ever one hundred percent perfect. There will still be a little imperfection.